Across the nation and indeed the world, political and medical leaders are urging everyone to stay home in order to stay healthy. While this addresses the physical risks associated with the recent pandemic, it fails to properly address the mental and emotional affects such isolation can cause.
First of all, take these orders seriously. In order to create effective medical tools to fight this virus, the researchers, scientists, and doctors need time. Practicing social distancing and self-isolating slows down the spread and buys precious time for those fighting this virus. Social distancing allows each of us to join the fight and do our part to save lives.
But that doesn’t mean we should ignore the serious ramifications this sudden social change will have on our mental and emotional health. That’s why we’ve collected some advice to remember and a few tips to help ease the transition.
First, Stay Calm
In any survival situation, the first step is to stay calm. Fear and panic make us do crazy things, things that we often regret later. Remember that the supply lines are still intact. Food and other supplies (including toilet paper) will continue to be brought to stores across the country. There is no need to hoard anything (except your space). Buy what you need, leave the rest for others, and remember that there is plenty for all.
Avoid Checking the Headlines More Than Once a Day
The news is an important resource for all of us as it gives us vital updates on policy changes, relief opportunities, and new ways we can protect ourselves. Both national and local news stations provide these updates on a regular basis, so it is a good idea to check in once a day.
But reconsider checking in more often than that.
Don’t sink into the black hole of headlines, many of which are written in such a way to grab your attention and get you to click the link. For your mental health, avoid reading every update, latest death toll article, or projection about its spread.
Social Distancing Doesn’t Mean Complete Isolation
While you shouldn’t meet friends for coffee or go catch a movie at the theater, you don’t have to completely cut yourself off from the outside world. Call friends and family often to check in (and not just to talk about the virus). Use resources like Facetime or Skype for video calls. Write a letter via email to send pictures of projects completed during this time or to share special events. If you do visit another person, remember to keep your distance, especially when visiting the elderly or those with conditions that make them more susceptible to illnesses.
Check in with friends and family members who may have the virus or be highly susceptible to it and see if they need supplies. Consider making the purchases for them and dropping them off at their home so they don’t need to expose themselves unless absolutely necessary.
Start on a Project You’ve Been Putting Off
It seems like there are always more jobs to be done than there is time. As many find themselves forced home from their jobs, consider starting in one of the many projects that often get pushed aside for another day. Go through your closets to find clothes for donation, start in on your spring cleaning, fix things around the yard.
Start or Restart a Hobby
Along the same lines, consider picking up a new (or existing) hobby. Knitting, drawing, singing, arts and crafts are just some possibilities. These are great activities to do with kids as well, so consider doing some sort of family project. Many of us have books we’ve been wanting to read, but our crazy schedules rarely allow for such luxuries. Pick up an old favorite or maybe a new book to dive into.
Get Outside
Social distancing and shelter-in-place orders don’t mean you can’t go outside at all. Find some hiking trails in your area, take out your bike, go horseback riding, play in the yard, go for a walk through the neighborhood. Get outside and enjoy the outdoors - just do so in a careful manner and be sure to give others at least 6 feet of distance.
Plan a Movie Night at Home
Consider turning your living room into a movie theater for a night. Select a family favorite or perhaps a new film to watch, make a big bowl of popcorn, and settle in for a fun family experience. Take turns picking the movie or treat to allow everyone a chance to get involved.
Don’t Forget Your Children
This pandemic is stressful for most adults, but it can be just as stressful for children (even very young children). Even if they don’t understand what is happening, they can sense your stress and will start to feel stressed as well. Take time to explain to them what’s happening (in an age appropriate way) and what you’re doing to keep everyone happy and healthy. Listen to their fears and talk them through it. Remind them of basic hygiene practices and how to maintain social distance with others. Give them projects and fun things to do to show them that these isolation practices aren’t as scary as they may seem.
If you’re having trouble or don’t know where to start, check out the National Association of School Psychologist’s website for more information.
It’s easy to get caught up in all the negativity, the fear, the scariness of something like this. Don’t be afraid to talk to someone about any feelings you have, good or bad. When you’re done, try thinking of the positives in your life. Be open to new experiences, work with the changes instead of against them, and above all, be kind to one another and yourselves.
Remember, we are all in this together.